A few days ago I wrote that there’s no magic pill: if you expect ChatGPT to write the perfect résumé or the perfect reply to someone — you’re not solving the real problem.
At the same time, I’m absolutely fine with using AI for both. You just need to do it consciously.
Scenario 1: the résumé
Ideally, of course, you’d have gotten ahead of everyone else and started tailoring your résumé with ChatGPT before 9 out of 10 dentists — I mean, job seekers — began doing the same. But even now, you can still use it:
- Polish your wording — especially if you’re not a native speaker (and even if you are, probably polish it anyway). After polishing, make sure to read your résumé again and rewrite parts of it in your own words. Imagine reading it out loud: would you stumble somewhere? Would it sound too “salesy”? No one expects a developer to speak like a salesperson, and that little imperfection will show that you actually put in effort.
- Ask ChatGPT to highlight strong and weak points in your résumé for a specific job — but then rewrite them yourself. Don’t just accept the version from ChatGPT, because it’ll always sound like maximum-grade corporate nonsense. According to ChatGPT, every one of us has “played a key role in driving project success and increasing KPIs by double digits,” even if our job title was junior assistant to the middle secretary. Unlike you, ChatGPT treats every past role as if you personally built a rocket and flew it to space — but your résumé is your story, and it should evolve over time.
Scenario 2: the conflict
Now this one’s my favorite. Two people have an argument. One of them, deeply offended, decides to write:
“You empty shoe, how dare you say that to me?”
— but instead of writing to the empty shoe, he writes to an artificial intelligence.
AI goes:
“Alright, bro, you’re dealing with a dumbass, but let’s confuse him with kindness.”
And then your dumbass — aka the empty shoe — receives a message like:
“When you said that, I felt hurt. I understand that you’re not really an empty shoe or a dumbass, but such moments remind me of when my art teacher walked into the principal’s office while I was being scolded. Please don’t do that again.”
I’m deliberately not saying what exactly the empty shoe said or why — because ChatGPT’s advice will always be the same. And your reply will sound insanely overprocessed.
But the main thing is — what if he really is an empty shoe? Why tell him he’s not?
Or maybe he was actually right, and you could forgive his outburst?
That’s where ChatGPT could actually help: not to rewrite your opponent’s words, but to translate them into something caring, warm — yet still from your own position. Try using ChatGPT not to change the person, but to love them.
Then you’ll truly have nonviolent communication — because when you love and respect your opponent’s position, you’re not forcing them. And, more importantly, you’re not forcing yourself.