Mikhail Bezverkhii – Product Manager | Consulting

šŸ˜ Public Sexuality

My name is Bob Kelso, and I love whores. No. Why don’t I introduce myself like that? Because there is the time and the place.

Let me continue grumbling. For a long time I couldn’t articulate what exactly bothers me about the emerging trend in my information bubble toward extremely open discussions of sexuality. I’m not a prude, and I respect people’s right to consensual interaction — and yet constant threads like ā€œHow I choose nipple clampsā€ genuinely repel me.


What I see in this open sexuality is a teenage cry: ā€œLook at me, I’m allowed to do this!ā€ And, as you might guess, I really dislike infantilized adults (the reason, as always, lies in my own traumas). Honestly, humans invented every possible use for a butt at least by Aristotle’s time. And keep this in mind: if one person has a body part shaped like a cylinder, and another person has a body part with a cavity, then at some point in history the cylinder has already been inside the cavity. That’s how humans work — we are explorers, sailors of our own bodies.


And of course there are places where sexuality is openly present and that’s perfectly normal: sex shops, kink parties, the bed of two (three) (four) (one and a half thousand) people.


Even if you bring some ā€œTen Rules of a Dominatrixā€ guide to a normie website — I won’t be thrilled, but at least people have the option not to engage with your content. I won’t be thrilled because sex is too easy a way to gain popularity; it distracts the audience from truly important things — mathematics and paleontology.


But what I absolutely don’t understand is using a woman’s breast on a flag, hanging dildo-shaped ornaments on a Christmas tree, or naming your quiz team ā€œLeague of 69 Seconds.ā€


Yes, yes, guys, I get it — you’re adults and you even know that the tongue has more than one possible application. Wonderful. But tell me: is sexual liberation really what you want to build your identity on? So you’re not a good friend, not someone who values honesty, not even a product manager — but someone whose central life-defining feature is… anal beads?


In things like this I see a challenge thrown at society — but thrown from behind the closed door of your own bedroom. It’s very convenient to ā€œpush boundariesā€ where they are already, frankly, pushed. An artist who nails his testicles to Red Square — that is someone effectively challenging society. That performance I can understand. But the desire to discuss your sex life with every passerby who didn’t even ask — that, I do not understand.